How To Say "No" To Sex

Be Direct 

  • I don’t want to have sex right now.
  • I am not comfortable with you touching me, please stop.

Be Proactive 

  • I am not sure where this is going yet, but I want us to talk about our expectations.
  • I appreciate you inviting me over, or offering to walk me home. I just want to be clear that this does not mean I am going to have sex with you.

If you like them 

  • I like you a lot, but I am not ready for a sexual relationship.
  • I want to get to know you better before I consider sex. 
  • Offer an alternative activity that allows you to continue growing your relationship.

Be Clear About Your Limits 

  • You may agree to have some forms of sexual activity but not others. If the person tries to go further than you agreed to, firmly say STOP. Don't apologize. You should feel proud, not sorry, for asserting your boundaries.

Seeking Sexual Aggression Services

  • Sexual aggression includes stalking, sexual harassment, domestic violence, intimate partner violence, and sexual assault.  
  • Central Michigan University offers confidential resources via Sexual Aggression Peer Advocates. SAPA promotes empowerment through information, choices, and resources.